Goal-setting.. Friend or Foe?

Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you. -Nathaniel Hawthorne

I’m in a quandary..

Let me explain..

If you’ve read any of my previous musings you’ll know that I quite like the practice of living in the NOW. Being present. Fully focused on what’s in front of you.

And inspired action according to how you feel with the aim of feeling GOOD.

No eye-rolling please..

So where does that leave the process of Goal-setting?

Here’s an example.

I’m a trailrunner (as you know).. And part of that experience for me was/is entering various trailrunning events. Which I have done. For a long time.

But what I can also tell you is that there have been occasions where I’ve entered a specific endurance event (which requires a fairly intense and disciplined training program) and then loathed the whole training process including the actual event.

So essentially I acted on how I was feeling in the moment (entered the event) and then by the time the event rolled around I was feeling VERY differently..!

Do you see the quandary..?

How do we honour being present and acting on how we feel and yet still plan for the future..?

How do we know how we’re going to feel in 6 months time?

Here are a few thoughts to ponder:

What is your motivation behind this goal? Is it linked to your ego?

What will happen if you don’t achieve the goal?

Or if you changed your mind?

Would you feel like a failure?

What’s the worst that can happen?

Society frowns on anything “unfinished”. We were all taught to finish what we start.

Ever asked yourself “Why?”

Is it really a bad thing or is it simply your inner dialogue making a noise?

If my aim is to feel good and this goal that I set yonks ago no longer resonates with me then surely it’s OK to change my mind?

I’m allowed to be flexible. Who says I can’t..?

After all, I’m the one living my life, in my shoes, everyday.

And I choose happiness.

Every time.

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